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Your Heart Has Been Broken Open

Does Anyone Else "Get it"?

YES!

Those of us who have walked in the fire of Grief do indeed 'get it'. We know how important it is to be witnessed, and heard as well as be seen as Whole by others, even as our hearts are in pieces.

Grief does not disappear. It does not 'go away'. BUT! It does change. It does shift. It does offer us a way to lean in to the life before us. It does come with the invitation to say "Yes." to life and know that the love we continue to hold in our tender hearts will always be a part of us. 

Offering mindful attention, resources, workshops and support not only as a Certified Grief Educator but also in collaboration with Maya Etienne, The Widowed Warrior. 

Wherever you are in your grief...You are welcome. 

In Service to the "Yes" 

~Rev. Patti Shaffner

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Creating Space For

Griev
ing Hearts


 

Reverend Patti Shaffner, Certified Grief Educator, CZT, CST

NOW OFFERING WIDOWED WARRIOR WORKSHOPS

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Walking In Grief

The "What Now?"

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I have an app on my phone that counts my steps in a day.

Of course it only counts steps IF I happen to have my phone on me.

Also... it only counts steps that have been physically taken by moving my body.

What is does NOT count...

The steps I have taken in any given day to face my reality...
The steps of making phone calls to address the business of death...
The steps I have taken in meditation...
The steps I have taken in watching emotions rise and fall and walking my mind and heart and body back to the moment....
The steps I take in dreams...
The steps I take into the past that my person and I shared...
The steps I take into the future that is unfolding before me...
The steps I have taken away from my center...
The steps I take back to myself...

More than the 8,000 or 10,000 that is said to maintain my health......
More than anyone can count...
More than anyone knows.... not even me....

And I just keep walking....

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In Grief we revolve and we evolve. Think of a river that is flowing. This is your life. Sometimes the river flows freely, moving ever towards the sea. Sometimes a tree falls in the river and little eddys that slow the flow. You see leaves circling around in the water, not moving forward. Sometimes we can remove the obstacles alone. Sometimes we need help. 

Always there will be these ebbs and flows in Grief. 

Even years later a gut punch comes out of the blue. You weren't expecting it to but there you are, tears welling, your heart feeling heavy, or shattered again. 

That is okay. 

This is the way of it. 

There is no right way or wrong way to grieve.  

Some options we choose might not help in the long run. But we are always able to make a different choice, even if just for a few moments. 

Our hearts have been broken open. 

Give yourself the gift of Grace and be gentle with your tender heart.

 

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OFFERINGS

PEER Grief Support

INFORMATION ON WHAT PEER GRIEF SUPPORT IS AND ISN'T

 MUSIC

AS A SINGER/SONGWRITER  MUSIC HAS HELPED ME PROCESS GRIEF.
FIND MY MUSIC HERE.

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MY GRIEF JOURNEY BEGAN WITH A DAILY FB BLOG.

 I INVITE YOU TO EXPLORE THERE. 

 

STORYTELLING

LEARNING TO TELL THE STORY OF YOUR PERSON AND YOUR GRIEF

BOOKS, WEBSITES, EXPERTS THAT I HAVE FOUND HELPFUL

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Rumi


"Your grief for what you've lost lifts a mirror up to where you're bravely working."


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Music & Spoken Word

Exploring Grief Through Music and Spoken Word 

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