June 18, 2019 · (This post from my FB Blog Page has reached over 2,700 people)
Grief..... Love......David said...one cannot exist without the other..... I have been sitting with that a LOT.....I have examined it....I have bathed in it.....I have been knocked literally onto my ass by it...I am walking moment to moment to moment in it....Love and Grief.....Why do we grieve? We grieve because what once was is no more... We grieve because we feel a very real physical void for the loss... We grieve because we feel the energetic void... We grieve because what we had come to believe was 'normal' is no longer normal... We grieve the loss of that witness... We grieve the loss of intimate relationship...
We grieve the loss of physical intimacy.... We grieve because of fear and loss of security.... We grieve because of what we do not have.... What we DO NOT have....Is that LOVE?!?I don't think so..... I think that feeling is LOSS.Love is something else.... Love is constant and present even when the object of that love is gone..... Love is beyond that object. Love is LARGER than all of that... Love can recognize loss as a part of the human experience.... Love exists without grief.
Love does not require grief to be the light it is!Grief is a thief....an imposter.....a reminder of what is NOT present. So we attach LOVE to it in an attempt to validate it.Don't get me wrong. I am grieving all those losses.... They are real... Each one must be faced and healed in time.... AND.....when at last this has softened...healed....the little imprints that we would call scars are pink and tender and still there to be reminders of ALL that I have gained in this oh so short lifetime of mine....
I will NOT call them grief....I will call them LOVE!!!